"Cheers" Where everyone knows you name!

Dennis pictured at the Old North Church- our last stop on the Freedom Trail. Our last night in Boston we visited the bar where they filmed "Cheers", then we couldn't get that song at of our heads.

Warner, New Hampshire

We happen to drive upon this little town that had just started their annual fall foilage parade and fair! Pretty cool! We ate homemade scones!

Bed and Breakfast!

The home I want to buy!!!

Our Bed and Breakfast!

We only stayed one night in this charming B&B! We loved it!!! Sara would have loved the squeakly wood floors. The breakfast was first class. I got the recipies to try out on my family!!

New Hampshire-"Is this heaven?"

These are the grounds of the Bed and Breakfast we stayed in the town of Bedford. "Beautiful, wish you were here!"

Gary Harold Stout- my little brother!

Gary Harold Stout’s physical suffering which endured for many years ended Monday, October 12th, 2009 as he passed away suddenly in his sleep. His life will be remembered with passion for his wife Lena, his children, music, sense of humor and the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Growing up in Glendale, California, Gary’s hands were always busy at work, creating space ships and buildings with his Erector sets, painting original modern art, playing the drums, playing the drums, and playing the drums! Did I mention he liked to play the drums? I think he could sit for hours and play and not notice the time pass. It was his little slice of heaven on earth. He, his brother, Michael and his friend, Chuck Jonkey formed a band in our garage in his early youth.
Gary attended Herbert Hoover High School in Glendale. After Graduation he served a successful mission to the Independence, Missouri Mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter -Day Saints. He missed his family almost as much as he missed his drum set!
After attending BYU for a time, he, along with Michael and their friend Randy Graves formed a progressive rock band called Kalaban. They collectedly wrote several songs and sold many CDs.
Gary married Carin Schaeffer who became my cherished sister, and had two beautiful children, Stephanie Danielle and Christopher Thomas. They lived in the Taylorsville area for a time before dissolving their marriage.
Sometime later Gary married Pamela Haven, another dear sister. Pam brought to their union two darling little boys, Christopher Todd and Justin Adam. Gary loved them as his own! Pam and Gary had two more wonderful children, Andrew Nicholas and Jennifer Nicole. After their marriage broke up Gary spent some time in China. Gary has always had a deep abiding love and admiration for the people of China. Gary was introduced to his soul mate, a woman named Lena who had a 13-year old daughter, Ashling. They fell madly in love and were naturally sealed in the Salt Lake Temple. As soon as he could, Gary adopted Ashling and had her sealed to him as well. Gary and Lena felt that they were born for each other.
Gary was a no-nonsense, brilliant man who excelled at drafting and Computer-Aided Design (CAD) and Computer-Aided Manufacturing (CAM); which he used for his vocation. Gary was an inventor and a perfectionist who had no trouble dedicating enormously long hours for his various work projects. Gary has worked and lived in the Salt Lake, Bountiful and Farmington area his entire adult life. Unfortunately for Gary, his trials and health issues were right up there with Job from the Bible. He fought the good fight, but is now reunited with his loving mother Joan. I hope you a have golden drum set in heaven Gar!! I miss you!

Gary !

Gary and me posing in our new clothes made by our mom!!

Gary and me in 1960! Also wearing outifts handmade by our mom. I remember she also made my dad a shirt to match Garys'.

Gary and Dennis shortly after Den and I were married at a Stout Family Reunion in Utah.

Elder Gary Stout at the Language Training Mission looking a little nervous as he leaves for his mission. I think I'm about two weeks pregnant here, (with Tiffany) but so excited that I am already wearing maternity clothes!

Gary's Graveside Service

My Uncle Parley and Aunt Charlene, cousin Karen, her husband and Mike
My mom's brother, Uncle Parley, Karen, husband and Todd

All of Gary's sons and his best friends were the Pallbearers. I thought I didn't have any tears left after the viewing the night before, but apparently I did. Mike and Randy were in charge of the music. Since there were no plugs at the Cemetery, that was quite a task, but they did a remarkable job. You can see Dennis holding his ear plugs in place which they passed out to all of us, but I had heard some of these songs before from Gary, and I loved them.

Graveside Service Cont.

My cousins, Toby, Julie, Diane and Susan

Ron, Gerry, Jolene and LuAnn

The Stout Cousins!!

Telisa, you were missed every second! Chad was home sick and Tara was also very sick and has been in bed ever since the luncheon ended. The purple shirts were given to all Gary's kids by Randy Graves, one of Gary's best friends and band buddy. They have the name of Gary's band "Kalaban" and the album cover that Gary designed.

The Three Wives Club- My Sisters

On October 12th, 2009, as Den and I were stuck on the 93 North freeway from New Hampshire to Boston, I received the most shocking phone call of my life. My brother Todd called to tell me he thought our brother Gary had passed away. He was standing outside his Condo, the police wouldn't let him in; just told him that there was a deceased man inside. I immediately called his wife, Lena and she confirmed through wails of tears that Gary was indeed dead. Shock, sadness, grief, bereavement and heartache ensued for me and my entire family. There was a small part of me that was relived because of Gary's intense physical pain for years and years, but my heart bled for his wife and 7 children. Gary's is my younger brother and he truly suffered physically like no else I know. Even though I knew, I still wasn't prepared for his early death.
Gary's wishes were for no funeral, just a viewing and a graveside service with an opening and closing prayer, the eulogy read and four songs of his choosing played loudly! I had my concerns, but it turned out the songs were very appropriate and quite lovely. I could just see Gary sitting at his drums playing his heart out to these tunes. After, his Chinese Ward provided a very nice luncheon at a nearby chapel. For me the day was very uplifting and healing. As you see pictured are me with his two former wives and current wife, the love of his life; Lena, Pam and Carin, whom I love very dearly. Telisa was unable to attend, so she sent a cookie bouquet to me and Stephanie. We loved it!!!!! I'm trying to understand what I need to learn from Gary's untimely passing. Maybe, that in life, we need to love our family more, forgive faster and never ever ever judge one another!!